~*aiyoyo

there's been so much talk around the word "marriage"! my friend is getting married end of this year (she's 24, so it's ok ;p) and she's really happily in love with her fiancée and vice versa, on the other hand another friend is getting married out of convenience??? (which really is widely practiced by half the world, so no "what??" about it)...amidst all this 'trauma' Crystal sent Pin and me an email regarding this "oh-so-convenient" marriage (incidentally, we have all been shed the very knowledge that the guy getting married has a long standing crush on Crystal - 4 years is one hell of a crush ok...maybe it's not even a crush!) so it's natural Crystal is concerned (abt herself losing an admirer hahahaha) and told us he's not entirely in love, but really just getting married because it's the most convenient thing to do after being together for numerous years. Is this the best way out? Veni says "why does everyone just thinks about getting married and living with the person they can live with and not the person they can't live without?" (Pin says Veni crap it off some forwarded email ;p) nevertheless it still holds true to very idea of marrying the person you can't live without! and it has essence!

Personally, i don't think there's ever a right definition of love, how it should be, how do you know it'll last, how long it'll last...it's so abstract, and my boy says that love has no reason (i think he's just avoiding my question, either that, or his mentality and thinking far exceeds mine, but that's not possible cus i have the Women's Brain)...And my male lecturer (an old married guy with a knack for cracking jokes) once told us that love is the prologue, the start of everything and when you're married, it's just plain trust. end of story...I am starting to believe we are fed far too much movies for our own good. i swear!

and while love plays a role somewhere in between all of us couples out there, i look for the comfortability in being in the presence of each other and the happiness that comes out of it...i don't put so much weight on being in love, don't get me wrong it's nice to feel what love is like maybe someone out there knows what this love deal is all about, cus i certainly don't, unless you count the days i miss not seeing my boy, or having the urge to whip up a simple yet special meal for him, hanging on to him when my days are going down the drains...if that's love, hell, then i'm in love..but till i get an answer from someone, i don't count that as love...but i can say, i love being with him. boy i sound confusing!

but marriage is entirely another level...i just don't know how people do it (out of love or convenience, either way)...and i very much wish people will change their perception about marriage...you don't need a piece a paper to bind two souls, i know that is widely said, but believing it is another case altogether. I just hope that friend of ours isn’t making the wrong move, we can only influence his decision but his decision is ultimately his.